If a movie is not interesting…how long you continue to watch or be concentrated on it? Lastly, we have seen “Drona”. No doubt it was very interesting for Ashna and she enjoyed it thoroughly though she said “it looks like pieces of story connected together”. Apart from story there was something that can interest her. For Megh…only fighting sequences are interesting and he was concentrated and quiet during that time only. For me …sometimes interesting sometimes boring. We were at theatre so seen whole movie but probably could not see if not in theatre.
What about breaking rules? If it is traffic,then rule must be followed but is it always good to follow rule? Osho has given simple definition of creativity…creating something that was never created before. Then without breaking rule or thinking out of box creativity is impossible. To discover something new,to create something never created before one needs curiosity,originality and out-of-box thinking.
If you are interested in any activity you will be concentrated and the moment you find something more interesting,new or which can make you more curious… you will diverted to that other activity…about adult person this might be not true always but what about little children? It is natural for them. It is age when they are driven by their own interest and curiosity. But short attention span and distractibility are symptoms of ADD/ADHD!
Misplace things and could not understand importance of time…are other symptoms. Disorganized behaviour…they says. I believe that if not imposed any kind of force or descipline children are like that naturally. Still their concept of time is under development. Organized personality have to be built after experiences of disorganization. And they learn it with time.
Can't sit still longer…some children are more energetic or more interested in physical acitivity and when they not found something interesting which make them quiet and sit longer they can’t.
Could not follow descipline/rule…it’s great characteristics,isn’t it?
Poor internal supervision…they are just kids!
So, this is ADD/ADHD!!!ADD and ADHD both different but using ADHD for both is confusing. ADD with Hyperactivity and ADD without Hyperactivity. One side there are thousands of websites about what is ADD/ADHD (They says it mental disorder…causes not clear but may be genetic, poor parenting, improper classroom techniques), types of ADHD,diagnosing ADHD (Diagnosing ADHD is highly subjective) ,treatment and medications of ADHD (horrifiying picture of American children taking medications ) , 504 plan and special arrangement if in US and how it effects relations. It is very confusing. Other side http://www.sntp.net/ritalin/myth_2.htm which I felt more closer to truth.
When Ash build different architecture models from blocks sitting for hours,can complete 300 pieces jiggshows,practice cartwheel or hand stand for hours or plays chess or cube…how can I say it is short attention span? She could not follow rule. For example…She likes to do drawing in her way only,no instruction require or accepted. Her drawing not sound techanically,but originality of idea always amaze us. Writing skills requires following some rules,and that’s why it’s boring for her. If she writes herself…without thinking of spelling mistakes,cleanliness,space or uniformality of letters than again ideas and using words are good.
They gives some causes for ADD/ADHD behavior are poor parenting and improper classroom techniques. About classroom technics,I can say it was improper and about poor parenting I’m responsible. I never wanted to nurture my children quiet and obedient like key operated toy. Never suppress their freedom,curiosity and originality in the name of manners or anything else. Someday her insight or vivek will develop and she will differentiate where to follow rule and where not or what is right and what is wrong.
So, as I know my child better than anybody else…diagnosed this myself and it is not ADD…It is just a poor parenting!
2 comments:
very well said, Sejal! i totally agree with you! there is no such thing as ADD or ADHD or anything else.... samhith is just the same.. he can be still for hours while making his blocks or a jigsaw puzzle or even reading a book he likes, but at other times, he cant sit still even for a minute! it does become a problem at times because he goes to school, and i dont have an option to homeschool him at present. what u are doing is perfect, adn i am sure this allows her creativity to be free and untamed, which will help as she grows older and decides which rules to follow...
Thank you Anu, just out of my concern. Yes, this post was written long ago, she is doing fine with freedom and follows her interests.Preparing Holi cards nowadays.
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